To begin, tell us about Kind Campaign!
Kind Campaign is an internationally recognized grassroots movement, documentary and school assembly program based upon the powerful belief in KINDness that brings awareness and healing to the negative and lasting affects of girl-against-girl "crime." Two Pepperdine graduates, Lauren Parsekian and Molly Thompson, founded kind Campaign in 2009.
Immediately after Lauren and Molly graduated with degrees in Film and Television Production, the girls drove across the country for two months to shoot their documentary and began implementing their school program into schools across the nation. Their documentary, Finding Kind was released in theaters in New York and Los Angeles, was accepted and awarded in over 20 film festivals and has screened in thousands of schools across America and Canada. Lauren and Molly have personally spoken in over 400 schools across North America and have completed 4 international anti-bullying school tours. They are really excited to continue their work of the last 4 years by creating what they call the KIND KIT.
Set to release in Spring 2013, the KIND KIT is an anti-bullying curriculum which will include the Finding Kind documentary, an assembly DVD, Kind Campaign materials and a copy of the Kind Club curriculum. The goal behind Kind Campaign has been to start vital conversations and educate girls across the nation about the importance of respecting one another, ourselves, mending on-going social conflicts, and viewing other females as allies rather than enemies.
How did KC start?
The seed that grew Kind Campaign into what it is today was their Documentary, Finding Kind. When Lauren was in middle school, she dealt with an extremely traumatic experience with a group of girls. That time in her life nearly drew her to take her own life. Realizing how crucial and devastating that period of time was for her and seeing how universal this experience is for all females, a desire to speak out about girl-against-girl "crime" was instilled in her at a very young age. While Lauren attended Pepperdine, she had the opportunity to work on a documentary, which inspired her to start production on a doc about this subject.
Lauren and Molly had both worked on film projects throughout college so they sat one fateful afternoon and had a conversation about making the film together. During that conversation, Molly revealed to Lauren that she too had a traumatic experience with a group of girls in high school. Given that they were both personally connected to the subject, there was an immediate drive to get started. The minute they turned the cameras on for their first interview, they knew they had dipped their hands into a subject that females had been long awaiting an opportunity to express themselves about. Seeing how vulnerable women and girls were being on camera, inspired them to take the film a step further and create a deeper conversation, thus founding Kind Campaign.
Best memory from your first tour?
Molly: Wow. It's so hard to name just one memory - every person that we've met along this journey whether scheduled or by chance, has impacted my life. One memory that stands out in my mind is a group event that was held at a friend from Pepperdine's families home in Chicago, Illinois where the girls from her sister's high school senior class gathered. Lauren and I were talking with them about their experiences in school and they made it sound like everything was perfect between all of their different groups of friends. It wasn't until we started the Kind Apology interactive feature from our school assembly program that the barriers came down.
Apologies were being given back and forth between and within all of the different cliques that made up the senior class. I don't think there was a dry eye in the room. This memory is one of my favorites because of the honesty and courage that these young women showed that night. They had the courage to open up about their own insecurities that fueled jealousies towards their good friends. They tore down walls that had been built up by these jealousies by being honest with one another and apologizing and taking responsibility of their emotions. We should be building each other up, rather than tearing each other down and this memory is a perfect example of the transformative power of an apology and the beauty of strong female friendships.
Lauren: I think the stretch from Yellowstone through Idaho was one of my favorite memories from the road trip. The landscape was so inspiring and I remember so many moments just sitting in the van with my headphones on and my shot list in hand, staring out the window feeling almost speechless about the fact that this was all really happening.
Another reason why that stretch was one of my favorite parts is because we bumped into a group of guys on the side of the road in Idaho that for me, stick out so profoundly. While I was sitting in the back of the van winding through the mountains, we passed a group of bikers and I yelled to "stop!" We got out of the car and approached the men to do a candid interview-- I figured they might have a funny perspective. What we didn't know as we approached them, was that these men bike to that spot once a year to celebrate the life of their friend's son, who had died in a car accident a few years past. We instantly connected with this group and had a long conversation with them. They ended up invited us to be a part of their ceremony for Scotts (one of the bikers) son.
We ended up staying in touch with Scott and now he brings a Kind Campaign bracelet back to that spot with him every year. He also came to the festival premiere of our documentary!
Another woman's story that has touched you the most?
Molly: Every single woman has a story and often times we don't fully know someone's story until we've walked a day in their shoes. Our experiences make us who we are. One story that will forever stand out in my mind is the story of a young woman named Lori.
We met Lori in Walla Walla, Washington. She approached us after we walked in the Pioneer Parade and met us at the park to share her story. To date, this is one of the most tragic stories that I have ever heard, but what impacted me is what a strong woman Lori has become. Since meeting in 2009, our paths have crossed again as Lori's story that is featured in the film inspired one woman to reach out to us in an effort to help Lori. What has transpired is truly the biggest gift and anything beyond our wildest dreams when we first started Kind Campaign. Now one woman's random act of kindness is completely changing Lori's life all because of a chance meeting in Walla Walla...You can find out more details about Lori and her story here.
Lauren: While shooting Finding Kind, I sat down and interviewed a girl named Amanda Martin. I went to elementary through high school with Amanda. Girls and boys were so mean to her. As I interviewed her, I listened to her re-live those experiences and I saw the pain she still deals with as a result of what she went through. At one point during the interview she looked at me and she said, "I wish someone would have just looked at me and said, I like you and you're okay just the way you are."
I actually had a computer class with Amanda in high school and I befriended her in that class because I genuinely always felt bad for her and thought she was such a lovely person. However, I never took that friendship outside of the classroom because it wasn't the "cool" thing to do. While I was interviewing her, I realized that just because I never went out of my way to be mean to her, I was just as much a part of her negative experience because I never did anything to stand up for her.
I ended up breaking down and apologized to her because I regretted so much that I was a bystander in her life. It was such a life-changing conversation for me and it prompted us to integrate a conversation about not being a bystander within our assemblies.
Favorite part of working with one another?
Molly: It's so interesting the way things work because we had actually only just met junior year when the following summer we dived into this life changing project together, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I think my favorite part about working with Lauren is that I know every little detail of every little thing about her life (and her mine) and I spend more time with her than anyone else in the world (including my husband at times), but yet we still have fun together.
We find ourselves in the most odd travel situations, but always manage to make a joke out of it or find a way to laugh. Whether it be belting out random songs, making funny faces, talking in accents or, more seriously, diving into a deep conversation about life. I am so thankful to have her by my side and cannot wait for the day I get to tell my kids about the adventures Auntie Lauren and I had together.
Lauren: Molly has the ability to see the good in everything and everyone. She works so hard and is such a strong support for me as a friend and as a business partner. I genuinely had ZERO idea what would come of that first conversation Molly and I had about the documentary. When I asked her to have lunch, I really didn't know if it was something she would be interested in.
Now, looking back over the last four years and seeing what the two of us have accomplished makes me really believe that we were placed into each others lives for an important reason and that the results of that first conversation was our fate. So I kinda see Molly as this divine human who came into my life in some sort of divine way that put me on my life's path...that may seem strange, but it's that deep for me...aside from just loving her as a friend. I’m lucky to have her in my life.
What was your vision for KC and how have you seen that grow or change?
Molly: When we first started Kind Campaign, we had so many big hopes and dreams. We were seniors at Pepperdine and spent any free moment working on starting the non-profit, planning the road trip, and dreaming up ways to further the campaign. We wanted to start a dialogue and a movement with the film and the non-profit and as a testament to the serious and timely subject matter, Kind Campaign just kept on growing. We didn't know what we were doing when we started out, we googled "how to start a non-profit", but after many long hours, serious hard work, and not taking no for an answer we have turned it into a program that changes female's experiences.
Lauren: Our vision didn't begin with Kind Campaign, it began with a documentary that we just hoped would be seen by people... I mean, I didn't even know if it would ever be completed or if it would even be good enough to be seen! Quickly though, as time went on, I was able to see the bigger picture and where it was all heading and soon realized the fact that when Molly and I put our minds to something, we MAKE it happen. I feel like we planted a seed and watered and cared for it and then watched it grow into an entire forest in the blink of an eye. We have just been running to keep up with the pace at which Kind Campaign has grown and I've deeply enjoyed being out of breath.
When on the road for so many months, what do you most look forward to getting home to?
Molly: Christopher David Thompson. My husband has been such a huge supporter of both Lauren and me from the very beginning, as he believes in the good in the work that we do. Even with the constant travel, crazy work hours, and moments of intense stress - he has always been there for me, by my side, encouraging me. He believes in me when I forget to. I look forward to coming home to him… and my friends. While we're on the road, we often miss out on gatherings of good friends which is hard, but that's when we remind ourselves why we do what we do and we know that there are always going to be more gatherings.
Lauren: My fiancé...the greatest human on the planet who supports me and makes me feel so incredibly loved and special. My family, my friends, my bed. Its hard traveling on and off almost ten months out of the year and missing things like birthdays, dinner parties, movie nights, anniversaries etc. As hard as that can get, I wouldn't take back a minute of the time I have spent away from everything to do what we do. Being able to take our film and assembly into schools and have conversations with girls who feel alone and broken and to feel like we are providing them with hope and a drive to change fills me with more joy than anything.
Best words of advice?
Molly: You are beautiful and perfect just the way that you are. Know that everyone else is battling the same thing as you, they want to be loved and accepted too, so find comfort in that. You don't need to change anything about yourself to try and "fit in" with a certain group of people, just be you and be kind to the people around you. Even as I say these things, know that all of this is easier said than done; we all need constant positive reminders like this because we're faced with negative ones every single day that try to make us question ourselves and change things about ourselves, so stay true to who you are and know that you can accomplish anything that you put your mind to, especially when you have your friends by your side. You can change the world with your friends.
Lauren: I was in school only a few years ago, walking those same middle and high school hallways and I have already learned so many lessons that I wish I could have told myself back then. Lessons like the importance of reaching out to people who are picked on, not getting caught up in drama and gossip, keeping friends in my life that respect me and respect themselves, and to know that one day I would go on to meet amazing friends that love me for who I am. When you are in school, it seems like that is your entire world. It feels almost impossible to see outside the school hallways and to know that there is so much more to life and that there are so many chapters ahead of you and people that you are going to meet. I think its really important for girls and boys to try to gain some perspective when times get tough and to know that this is NOT their entire story...that it truly does get better and that you will never look back on your school experience and regret being KIND to people.
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